by Rebecca Kohler | 1 September 2014

From club owners, to audience members to other comedians, the number of characters you’ll meet will astound you.

Some people theorise that comedians are ultimately seeking approval through laughter. I would partially agree with that, but I’d go further and say what they’re really seeking is connection. When someone laughs at a joke, it’s a sign that they identify with you, that they’ve been there.

As someone who grew up moving around the world, I think connection was immensely important to me. I’d land somewhere new and the first thing I wanted to do was make a connection with someone – it was like an anchor to my ship that was in unstable waters. I also think that spending the ages of 7-10 in Bangkok, Thailand (shout out to ISB!), helped make me an extremely expressive person. I was often dealing with kids who couldn’t speak a word of English, yet somehow we’d find a way to play. Through body language, tone of voice and facial expressions, we were able to communicate with each other.

It’s funny to think that my comedic side may have risen out of being the child of a diplomat, because the life of a touring stand-up comic is ever so different from that of cocktail parties at ambassadors’ homes. Gritty, hard, lonely, at times sleazy; this is not the life I pictured for myself while attending parties in the shadow of the Eiffel Tower during my stint at the American School of Paris in my teens.

That said, I wouldn’t scrap it for the world and here’s why: I knew I wanted to be a comic at the age of ten.

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